A Different Perspective on Love
Now, I have a question for you? Do you love yourself?
No, wait, a better question is………Are you in love with yourself?
You may be thinking, “What’s that supposed to mean?”.
And my response is, it means what I just said.
Are you IN LOVE with yourself?
So here we go, let’s gauge whether you’re in love with yourself the same way you would gauge whether you’ve been in love with someone else?
How did you know you were in love with your significant other? Did you know their triggers, strengths, weaknesses, values, gifts, or what they wanted to do with their life? Did you believe in them or have faith in their dreams? Did you hurt when they hurt or cry when they cried? Did you feel like hurting them was the same as hurting yourself? Maybe this is how you measured it, how you knew you were in love with that person.
If so, can you answer the same questions about yourself
What are your triggers, strengths, weaknesses, values, and gifts? What do you want to do with your life? Do you believe in yourself? Do you have faith in your dreams? What makes you hurt? What makes you cry? Who are you?
Maybe you can’t answer these questions because you’ve spent so many years falling in love with someone else, that you’ve lost that same love for yourself.
Have you been dating since you were a teenager, always in and out of relationships? Never spending too much time alone, because you didn’t like the feeling of not having a boyfriend or just a male friend. Maybe, you’ve had a few boyfriends here and there over the years, but during your involuntary breaks of not being with anyone, you were always waiting to meet and date the next person. Or maybe you’ve only had one real boyfriend. Only one person that you were really in love with.
We get so obsessed with being with someone else that we lose ourselves. Or worse, we never got to know who we were in the first place.
Again, Who are you?
You have to spend time with yourself to get to know who you are, to be able to fall in love with yourself. How will you know the gifts, talents, and innovations you have to offer the world? You are unique, powerful, and creative in your own right. The world has been waiting for what you have to offer, but you haven’t been able to produce, move forward, or create because you’ve lost sight of who you are.
You’ve prayed, cried, worked to create a measure of success, and dreamed outlandishly. However, you move one step forward to get knocked two steps back.
You’ve made life decisions that don’t even line up with who you are, what you believe, or what you really want.
So, how do you get to know who you are? How do you fall in love with yourself?
The beautiful thing is, it’s simple. You get to know yourself the same way you get to know everyone else. You spend time with yourself. You consider your likes and dislikes. What podcast gets you fired up, energized, or excited when you listen to it? What subject ignites a passion in you when you talk or even think about it? Do you love your job or do you love the people you work with? Do you love what you do or do you love the impact your work has on other people?
I’m not telling you to stop everything you don’t like doing, but I do suggest you become more aware of what you like, what makes you tick, what makes you cry, what you’re passionate about, or what you excel in. I’m encouraging you to get to know yourself and fall in love with the person that you meet.
So, one more time for those in the back
Who are You?
Because
The more you get to know who you are, the better idea you will have in determining where you want to be, who you want to be, and the kind of life you want to live
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